When things aren’t exactly working the way you hope they would in your dating life, you might be committing some of these mistakes without even knowing it.
- Bringing up your ex more than necessary. So what’s the norm when it comes to talking about your ex? The answer would be NONE because the past should remain in the past and there would really be no substantial reason as to why your ex should come up in your conversations with your current date. But should the inevitable question about your past relationships come up, simply respond with “I learned from it and have moved on since then”.
- Making it all about you. Sure, your date might be interested to know more about you. But they’d like for you to ask about them too. You should open yourself up, but so should the other person too. But that can’t happen if all the communication is only coming from your end.
- Carrying excess baggage. You easily boast of having moved on but you can sometimes be unaware that you keep on bringing up your past. The point it, you may share your baggage when appropriate and when reciprocated— but it should always be left at the door when you are starting to see someone new.
- Full disclosure. While honesty is a sought-after trait, pouring out everything in your heart and soul to the person you are seeing doesn’t make them your date. Rather, you are turning them into a therapist and your date a therapy session.
- Thinking that it’s all about chemistry. While chemistry plays a role in attraction and the success of any relationship, it takes many forms and each of which has to align in both individuals for a love connection to happen. You must have physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual chemistry. It’s never enough to be physically attracted alone because looks can only go as far.
Next time you are dating someone, keep these pointers in mind and do a double check once you sense that you might be committing one of these.
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